What Should I be doing 3

[Coconut]

I want to respond - I don't need you to be concerned about me, I need to know when you'll be leaving the station.

1. I would think you would find more disturbing that your wife said that she did not want a mistake that they made.....costing her the department............instead of saying costing her the marriage!

Seriously, you can clearly see where her priorities lay.

2. Do not let her replace a no contact letter with this text. They are two separate things altogether.

3. If I could read your mind, I bet I would see where you are a little scared of pushing it that far. You don't have to do it right now. Just don't wait long. Who knows what OM means by saying he was planning on moving "soon". Does that mean in three months, this year, or when? I find it a little strange she knew nothing about his plans to move. He didn't ask her any questions about them, or you, .........or anything?

4. Do not put anything past what they are capable of doing. You are a smart man, but love does cause us to be blind to a lot. It will be not be easy if you think she's hurting.

5. I am sure you would just like to put this all behind you and get on with living your lives together. I hope you will stand firm, b/c I think she just might make it. Not to say she doesn't have a long ways to go, but at least she did check about him moving to another location. Take that as positive step forward.

6. Oh, another word of caution. Don't let any excitement you might feel show in front of her, right away. May sound crazy to you, but a lot of WW's will see it and then do something to kick the H where it hurts. Just present a calm man to her. Be polite, pleasant, and validate her. Tomorrow begins a new day.

It's really hard to figure out how to do multiple quotes on iPad, so I just numbered above...

1. Yes, that was a kick in the nuts Sandi, that she said academy instead of marriage, but at least it seems like she is considering leaving acadamy as an option, but I'm reading a lot into it,

2. I wasn't, she will need a NC letter after he leaves station, or she leaves acadamy.

3. I told her that I will need to text him back and ask specifically when, anything over a month is too long for me.

4. Not sure what you mean here exactly... She seems detached and like she despises him for what happened, it could be an act, but if so, she's fooling me.

5. I am standing firm on NC, I'm not ok with open marriage, but I'm certain that the most they've been doing now is talking in the station, they haven't seen each other outside of the station.

6. Ok, but I did tell her that I recognize what she has been trying to do to cut contact... But I won't say or show anymore.

Thanks again Sandi...