New Couple, Same Old Story 2

[Ralph88]

I agree with all. Rug sweeping equals no good. No know, because I allowed it to happen, and took most of the responsibility for how we got there. Yes, previous to that first (that I knew of), I had not done the hard work to be the man I should have been in the marriage. But after that rug sweep, she was never remorseful and didn't really put any work in to fix her, to establish her own boundaries, or work on our marriage. So we come to this latest set of events.

Now, I'm pressing on with my life. I truly feel I did a pretty good job as a husband, not perfect. But her issues have been reoccurring, I won't go into details, but when it gets hard, she runs, into someone else. I can't fix her, nor be anything for her, in this state. She has to figure it out on her own. If you would have asked me any other time in the last 5 months to 10 years if I would work hard and make it work, I would say absolutely. At this point, I truly don't know, even is she did the hard work and fixed herself, established boundaries for herself, was dedicated 100% to our M and family, and I truly believed it. Is that hard to say, yes, but like TXhubby said, I won't be plan b, I won't be disrespected like that, I won't place by balls in someone's purse, I won't make excuses for someone else, and I don't need a partner, but know if one is meant for me, she won't violate those things I mentioned.