In my experience cheating and affairs fall into two categories:
1) Unthinking act of betrayal due to an opportunity that was acted on (met guy/girl in bar while drunk and things got out of hand)
2) Deliberate act of betrayal due to wanting to get out of a relationship, or due to pent up anger, frustration and resentment at spouse or partner.
In the first case the person who has strayed is usually remorseful and seeks to make amends. Those situations don't usually end up on these boards.
In the second case when someone cheats on you they have come to resent you...a lot. Cheating is often an act of anger.
In those cases, exposing the affair is guaranteed to do two things: (1) make the person even angrier than they were before, and (2) make them resent you more than they did before.
Is that where you want to be?
Really what is the point of exposure? The thought behind it seems to be that you can rally a community of people to shame your partner into ending an affair and coming back to you.
Could that ever really work? Would a shamed person be excited about coming back?
In the best case exposure will rally support for a person who has been wronged, but really that's all it's going to do. It's not going to improve the situation between the LBS and the WAS.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
