CWOL, thanks for your interest in my sitch. I feel that exposing WW's affair with her boss to their employer would have a catastrophic effect on the ability of WW and I to have: - an amicable co-parenting relationship - to settle this divorce collaboratively
Anyhow, with option B, I actually only wanted to expose the Affair to our Parenting Coordinator (PC) so we can discuss what's the best way of introducing a new partner into D3's life only 3 months since we physically separated. The problem is that WW will never admit it so I would have to play games to expose her.
So, with some hesitation I ended up going with Option A.
This option immediately enables WW to maximize her single life with her boss' single life, and allows the blending of D3 with OM's D8 on alternating weekends. But I get 50% custody and a full alternating weekends with D3. I cannot put a price on that!
I can only control what happens in my D3's life when she's with me. If WW chooses to play house with OM and his daughter with sleepovers at each other's houses like D3 reports, than any negative emotional scarring D3 has as fallout is on WW, not me. I can only bring it up with our PC when it becomes an issue.
Worrying about what's going on when D3 is not in my custody takes away from my focus. My focus is on how to be the best dad for D3 when she is with me.
Me37 W33 T:8 M:5 D3 BD 11/2015 EA+PA w boss 12/2015 S 3/2016
Im stronger because I had to be Im smarter because of my mistakes happier because of the sadness Ive known and now wiser because I learned
