I have the same problem with my job. I do a pretty good job of GAL when I'm not at work (jogging in the morning and doing positive things for me in the evening) but have a really hard time focusing and getting stuff done. At work I keep wanting to plan GAL activities or check the DB forums for new threads or read relationship book PDFs and websites. My normal trick of just trying to start with some little piece of work hasn't even been working well.

I don't know the answer, but I definitely sympathize.


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11