The rollercoaster is real. Some days I wake up feeling like Aha!... now I am finally at peace and fully detached and know exactly what I need to do... and then by the evening anxiety, fear, and uncertainty are back in force.

Good luck with the refocusing!

Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11