Darknes, one thing, are you really saying that I must look past any transgressions from her side, regardless how long it takes, until I detach? Once I am detached then I will be able to make an informed decision. That sounds like madness!
Everything sounds like madness when we are in these situations. They don't make sense because our gut says one things, mind says another, and yet, usually neither one of those things are right in accomplishing our goals. We aren't trained for this type of thing, this isn't something you study growing up in school or learning for work. I wish we could make sense of these things, but feel like most of us are just aiming from the hip as best we can.
