Toast - burnt or just right

[rich4j]

thx cwol...yes...a bit different but I do want to explain it to her...just not sure how/when.

My STBX would respond "daddy didn't treat me well and was mean to me. Remember the time he made me cry?" My daughter remembers a fight we had where she was crying which made me feel horrible for both. It was just another one of our arguements filled with drama coupled with her drinking too much where she started to cry and woke up our daughter years ago but it sticks in her head.

I am worried I will be made to be the boogie man and bad guy if I go the full truth route. Thinking I keep that wrapped up until i move out and when/if she asks will you and mommy get back together I could say " It wasn't my decision to split up ...that was mommy's...so I would say no" Or something like that...

I am sure it would get back to her and the world would errupt but will worry about that day when it comes :-)

I couldn't sleep last night which was a new one for me as I have been OK for a few months now but the reality of her cheating and hard core evidence makes me sick to my stomach. Hard to even look at her this am