Sorry this is so difficult. I loved your sentiment that she isn't filling your love tank. You're right, she's not!
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
She says, "this is the emotional roller coaster I'm talking about. It's exhausting(starts crying). One minute you say you want to do everything to save this maririage and make sure S has the stability we didn't have. Then the next you are talking about moving out. Pick a lane and stay on it"
Well I hope here is where the MC stepped in to ask what your W is doing to save this marriage. What effort is she investing etc.? The fact that you're at the point of moving out indicates that she's not pulling her weight.
Her comment here was very unfair -- you've been working on it for THREE YEARS, not "one minute", and she doesn't get to dictate that you "pick a lane and stay in it" as she has been lane changing all over the place and isn't accountable to you.
I think that declaration was you signaling that you're going to move the other direction and she didn't like it, because she wants the timetable and the decision to be hers. I don't think she got upset because she's feeling loving, she just doesn't want the decision to be made before she's ready.
Originally Posted By: cbtdad
She has been doing more "loving" things lately
More detail please! We only see the relationship through the keyhole that you show us. What has she been doing that's loving? Just a couple days ago on the 14th and 15th you were posting about how she was ignoring you around the house, refused to say goodnight, was sleeping in your bed with her neighbor friend, etc. That treatment seemed to be the opposite of "more loving" and it wasn't that long ago. Is she not picking a lane and staying in it?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
