All i can say is too back yourself , you cant keep doing the on off thing thats not how i view a committed relationship Theres a reason you keep getting the bomb drop maybe she wants out but can pull the trigger? Who knows?
At the moment theres still emotions and feelings attached i understand ive had the on off thing myself numerous times. You need to look out for you and the kids, step back and take time.
Me: 45 w:45
M:6yrs T:9 Separated aug 15 no contact dec 15 come back july 16 I filed for closure aug 16