Building my life...

[Zues126]

"I fully understand the school system's benefits. I want to ensure stability and security for the children. I am onboard with the kids going to a better school, but I believe there is more to the conversation than school performance.

The school system is less convenient for everyone but you. Are you working somewhere local or getting a new job? If not, how is your travel requirements going to change? I'm concerned because you haven't been able to see the kids for the full 50% b/c of work and consistently rely on your mother or myself.

As for the house, who will be living there? Are you purchasing it by yourself? I believe this directly relates to stability and security of our children. It was inappropriate for you to never discuss your new relationship with me in a healthy way for the betterment of the kids. "

My opinion- remove anything that appears to be judgment. It is not your place to coach her on appropriate, moral, or mature behavior. It just comes across as critical and controlling.

I'm not suggesting the remainder flows as written without these bridges, just what I think is appropriate to discuss.

Keep it brief.

Thank you for looking into educational programs for the children. I agree that is an important consideration and I can see that this district has a lot to offer them.

I do have concerns about increasing the distance between their parents. I think being in close proximity to both their parents is also paramount to the children. It will also impact the pick ups and drops offs. Currently the children are able to walk/bus home to my place, a critical piece in that it allows me to work my job without the inconvenience of a long commute. Based on this I'd prefer to keep them in their current district, and feel the responsibility to bridging the gap belongs to you if you favor moving further from the children. Finally, after the change they've been through, I support keeping their schooling as stable as possible and allow them to remain close with their friends and social support network.

I am confident we can find extracurricular activities in their current system, particularly if it's close enough I can play a more involved role in their scholastic events.



I'd leave it there for now, you can find out who she's living with later, one battle at a time...Just my 2 cents.