yes, there is such a thing. it is understanding that you are worth more than the abusive spouse treated you. it is not easy thing to do. it starts with acknowledging that you are worthy of more and willing to get it. seeing her actions for what they were and accepting that although you had faults, you did not deserve this treatment. I suggest once you are done with your current text you start.looking into other sources about getting out of these sorts of abusive relationships. she may not have ever struck you, but the scars are evident and you will carry marks for a long time.
I have a lengthy post for you...in response to your questions i will post it in the morning when I get to work...I ran out of time before I had to leave today, just needed a quick once over.
