WAW moved out, spewing anger, trying to detach

[Phoebe]

There are no true stages to grief, if that's what you are getting at, SadHub.

Another tidbit from my grief counseling book: the old Kubler-Ross model was actually based on the experiences of people who were diagnosed with terminal illness themselves. It doesn't really apply to those who have to keep on living. It's another false idea that most of us have been taught about grieving - that we will start with denial, then go to anger, and so on.

The reality is that we cycle between every emotion possible, there is no set path or order to those emotions. We don't progress from emotion A to B then to C in linear fashion. Everyone's path is their own, and, as you are experiencing, you can feel sadness, then anger, then numbness, then sadness, then... anything! I think that your muted feelings may be a sign that you are starting to process your grief. Whatever you are feeling, or not feeling, is totally normal and part of your own grieving process.

That you are sleeping better is wonderful! I thought I was, too, based on one night without any sleep-aids, but then I barely slept last night. Back to the silly benadryl.

Is it possible to just let the paperwork ride for now and save yourself the aggravation of having to keep asking for it? I know you want it over with already, but unless it changes something major, perhaps you should consider backing off on the pursuit of the paperwork for your own well being. It will come eventually.

Definitely document the obstruction of your contact with D5. Is she allowed to talk to D5 on your time together? Is there something formalized about this in your co-parenting agreement? If she is impinging on agreed-upon contact, then that's a real problem, but if it's not in writing, well... I suspect it's a lot less clear-cut. It's certainly something to discuss with your L.

I hope you get a good night's sleep again.

(((SadHub)))