Some days are better than others

[EDF]

Well, after much introspection I decided to confront my wife tonight... to tell her I know about her "more than just friends" affair. I decided the dissonance between the man I was trying to be via GALing, and the man who was sitting silently while his wife thought she was getting away with whatever she wanted was too much.

It went about as expected. She denied having an affair, and then claimed naughty pictures "wasn't really an affair", and then claimed their secret dates "weren't really secret", and finally made a snarky comment complaining about me snooping in her email.

I managed to stay fairly calm and brief and say what I planned to say... During practicing I had removed the couple of lines that kept making me tear up. The wife didn't cry or yell or anything more than the snarly retort.

I made it clear that while we both would have work to do to improve things, if she decides she wants to choose me she is going to have to fight to win me back.

She tried to downplay the affair activities, pointing out the naughty pics stopped a while ago and "if it was an affair it was a pretty shitty one because he's always too busy to hang out with me and he's getting married to his girlfriend now anyway."

Surprised she didn't ask whether I was going to tell anyone(e.g. OM's wife, or my parents, etc)... Maybe those questions will come after the conversation sinks in more.

I really don't know whether confronting now was the best chance of saving our marriage (things had seemed to be getting less frequent with OM), but decided it was what I needed for me. And if she did come back, I wanted her to know she would have to work for it rather than limping in and try to still maintain some sort of borderline friendship with OM.

Left the house to go for a drive afterwards... will see how the next few days pan out. Trying to have no expectations...