Interesting first paragraph, Zues. I've been networking like mad for my job and a side effect of that is aLOT of guys have been offering me their numbers... Not always professionally. It's a totally unfamiliar experience from when I was married.
Also, I had been going to a social dance class for several months and it's becoming clear the male instructor is interested in me. Earlier I had asked NG to join me because i thought it would be fun & sexy, but he said no and I was ok with that because I get a lot of harmless attention that I enjoyed. But recently I went back and the male instructor, who is single, the right age, and interested, offered to teach me to tango... He jumped straight in to putting his leg between my thighs. I felt super vulnerable. Tango is SO intimate. I want NG to come with me now, almost as protection. I didn't stress how uncomfortable I felt, but I did mention what had happened. He doesn't want to go. He said he'd consider going dancing elsewhere.
It happens that the town I go for my lesson is the one where he lived with the ex, and where she still lives. That was his grounds for not going to my class.
So I don't know that he's terribly concerned about protecting his territory.
He's worth it in 100 ways. I like the flaws. I feel like we balance one another. I'm not as panicked as I was, but I do wish I felt more secure. I feel like as the relationship gets deeper there will be some loveliness in him to enjoy and the more I know him the more I learn about myself. Plus it's really nice to get to know someone new more deeply.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
