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CWOL- question? Did you have the discussion with your S11 that his mom instegated this? How did that go?

Yes, I followed the advice of another forum which advocated exposure. So I exposed to S11 at the same time I did to several of our close friends and family.
S11 was sad at first but it had already been three weeks since D-Day, when I confronted my WW about her EA. So he instinctively felt something was wrong. However, he is pretty mature for 11 and he felt sad and teared up a little. But he said he was glad that I told him the truth. It was a very traumatic time for all, but I'm glad I told him the truth. My WW was intent on burying things as just chalk it up to the 50% of marriages that "grown apart." I did not want to lie to my son as she swept it under the rug.