In other news... I started reading "codependence no more" again. Also watched a couple videos about it. It was a little gut wrenching also. Did I do those things? The video kept using the term narcissist, over and over, like one has to be a narcissist and one a codependent. I didn't think that was a requirement, I thought there could be 2 codependent people.
The examples in the video talked about not allowing the other to do things. And when the codependent sets boundaries and says "I'm going to do it anyway", the narcissist goes crazy. Well, this thing happened. She told me last minute about the party I talk about in my first post. I told her I didn't like the idea, we had been arguing for days, the timing sucked. I went looking for her because I was suspicious.... Still am! She wasn't there. when she showed up, I told her we needed to get home. She says I screamed and called her names and kicked and punched my vehicle, that never happened, I stayed calm. I never did those things, ever. So, I played part of the role I guess, but she made the rest of my fitting the role up in her head... To a tee!
Self evaluation requires digging up skeletons... It [censored]! I'll continue on the path of self discovery no matter how painful it becomes.
