"I've been advised to "compassionately detach" as he doesn't respond well to me being cold. I've been way too validating and accommodating to him so I've stopped all of that."
This is my struggle. I know I can't fully detach without him just cocooning into a ball of uselessness. He is very prone to hopelessness. I don't know how to politely detach. I also wonder if I do if he will just continue to eat cake.
