Time to Love and discover myself

[Sotto]

Hi Pink, so if you read my thread, you'll see I'm also divorced now. Not what I wanted of course but I feel calm about it and will keep moving forward.

Now then, I think you're setting far too much store by H's 'no' answer. Remember the rule to believe nothing they say etc. He gave you that answer 'in the moment' and he is a confused guy for sure. Accept it for what it was - his response 'right then' - and let it go.

If you choose to remain hopeful in the longer term for the R, that's entirely up to you. But I do think the advice to put your love in a box on the shelf, is good advice. If you want to get the box down at some point and have another look inside, it's up there on the shelf and you can take it down.

But for now, I think you are right on the money to keep the focus on you, your kids, work, life etc. He is a small part of some of that, but you have a life separate to him now. It may always remain so, it may not and time will tell.

I agree with others - you are in no way average - you are a talented, sparky, unique and compassionate woman...and don't tell yourself otherwise (((((hugs))))

Take care lovely, and do keep posting as we are all here for you.

Xx