Ignore my previous post, I didn't meant to send it... here's what I meant to send:
As others have said, I would avoid the R talk at all costs. If she brings it up (my WAW keeps bringing up "what about us, our R, etc", the technique I've been advised by coaches is something like, "With your decision to leave/end this M, there is no "us" right now, "you" and "me" are separate individuals that are currently not tied to one another on a R level. And my only plan/goal during this time is to focus on what's best for me and my situation and providing a supportive environment for my self-reflection and time of growing into a better man. If you do decide to invite yourself back into my life as a H/W, I see no benefit in talking about "us"."
This has a couple affects, primarily it shows that you are moving on and working to develop yourself in to a better person. It also shows that you know what you want during this time, and it's not to be involved with a back-and-forth W who can't make up her mind. She might be angry and say that 'it's not all about you, etc etc", but she needs to understand that you know the importance of having a solid foundation to build your life on, whether she's a part of it or not."
this should send the message that you are serious about your comments about being ready to move one with or without her, and if you bring up R talk, then you're only showing her your previous comments were misguided and made on indecision and trying to "trick her"... You need to stand ground. Change the locks if you have to. It might take something drastic to get her to see that you mean business as long as she's not going to be willing to be a part of the R.
