Well, she wanted to exchange the kids in a parking lot, which I was not ok with.
Why not? Why was "getting ice cream" a better choice? Your kids are very young. Do you expect to be meeting for some kind of social event every time they change hands?
Originally Posted By: CRW
Farther, I sent it in anger and frustration. I'm mad at myself for that one.
So how will you prevent from doing that again?
Originally Posted By: CRW
this would be much easier without the kids. for example, S1.5 had tubes put in his ears today. Hard not to communicate with her about that.
This is going to be a VERY long road if you arent able to separate your children's wellbeing from your relationship. Theres some things that you dont need to communicate about - what S ate during the day, whether W forgot a pair of pants, whether S slept well, etc. Those kinds of "check-ins" are pursuing. But when your kid is having surgery, then you need to be able to talk civilly.
How can you be the model of how to communicate in these instances?
Originally Posted By: CRW
And now she jokes around with me
Me - Awe, little bubba! thanks for the video!
W - Sure. He is eating an actual meal now. He kept the crackers down so i assumed it was safe to proceed. He is literally defying all odds of what they told me to expect. He def got my resilient character...
ME - Pretty sure he got that from his dad......
W - I'm not the one walking with a knee brace....just sayn
Me - most people would be on crutches. Luckily I have so much muscle....
I know, I should have ignored it....
I dont think you did any "damage" with the exchange. But if you know you should have ignored it, then why didnt you?
I might have encouraged her "good behavior" instead of joking around. "Glad to hear it. Thanks for being there for him today." and left it at that.
