blueboy - one thing I've learned in my own journey is that you cannot fix HER - you can only fix yourself. I've done it all, give W things to read, sent encouraging text messages, begged, pleaded, openly wept, nothing had any impact but to make her colder and more distant.

First take a good hard look at yourself. Do you like the MAN you see in the mirror? If not, start working on that. Not for HER but for yourself and your family. For me it's helped me rediscover who I was before I was lost and who I am now. It also turns out that my W seems to like that guy and has started moving closer towards me. Tentatively and I have to keep from being hopeful but there is definite movement.

Good luck in your own journey. It won't be easy but the reward at the end when you look again into that mirror will be worth it.

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