She's looking for ANY reason to leave, and I'm not giving a one.
Just don't get too focused on you trying to do everything to please her, in hopes of not giving her a reason to leave. Listen, the H doesn't have to do a thing......not one single thing wrong, and if she wants to leave.......she will. Even if she has to twist the truth inside out, she'll do it. So you focus on your values and beliefs. You take care of you and do what YOU want to do. Trust me when I say, she is going to do what she wants.
I the H makes a big mistake when he falls into a mode of walking around on eggshells and trying to please his WW. Once she is out of her waywardness and the couple has therapy to work through their M issues, then both of them should find pleasure in doing things they know pleases one another. But don't do it to try and win her back or to keep her from leaving.
Oh, in answer to your question about bullying, you can google emotional bullying, or female bullying in relationships, etc.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
