C - Jesus T, who are you? You sneak around with another guy, you spend 8k on your chest, you send texts like that, and your first born son can't stand being in the the same house as you. This is as happy as you have ever been? Good for you. Seems like you have quite the whole life, full of depth.
My advice is to reflect back on your actions and determine how to take the lessons learned and apply them going forward.
What was your goal in sending this text? And do you think sending it brought you closer or farther from your overall goals?
Advice on what? Your wife asked you to stop contacting her unless it's about the kids. Yet, you then replied... adding fuel to the fire. I agree with doodler. Let her be and focus on yourself.
What happened prior to her text telling you to leave her alone?
Well, she wanted to exchange the kids in a parking lot, which I was not ok with. We agreed to meet at an ice cream shop, get the kids ice cream together, and then she could take them. However, when we got there she said she had changed her mind and was just going to take the kids. That basically set everything off.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
C - Jesus T, who are you? You sneak around with another guy, you spend 8k on your chest, you send texts like that, and your first born son can't stand being in the the same house as you. This is as happy as you have ever been? Good for you. Seems like you have quite the whole life, full of depth.
My advice is to reflect back on your actions and determine how to take the lessons learned and apply them going forward.
What was your goal in sending this text? And do you think sending it brought you closer or farther from your overall goals?
Farther, I sent it in anger and frustration. I'm mad at myself for that one.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
'I wish you would understand that the sooner we are divorced, the sooner we can develop a relationship co-parenting. We can't do that until then and it makes things very, very tough. '
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
CRW, I think at this point I would agree with the others. Let her be, HARD HARD HARD to do, but i think that would be best for your well being as well.
ok that you were upset about not having ice cream together, but stop and breathe, think before we react. I know its hard to do in the "heat of the moment" but we cause ourselves so much turmoil over things that could have gone so much better if we would have stopped and took a DEEP breathe 1st.
you can do this, remember you have the support here.
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
