I think it's time for some healthy detachment. I would even consider turning the phone off when he's out carousing. If necessary let him know that you will be doing this as you need to care for yourself and what he did was akin to emotional abuse last night. Is there a support group locally for family of addicts?
SadSara, i went to an Al-anon meeting this past Sunday, which is the support group for the family and spouses of addicts. the do have al-ateen as well but my girls look at me crazy when I suggested that they may can go. My eldest D is going to a counselor my other D isn't. I don't want to push, but I will keep bringing it up with her to try and get her there, b/c i think it will help her where I cannot.
detachment. i don't know how hard im trying. it is extremely harder this 2nd time around. I know i can do it, b/c i did it in the past. i do have to remember this is about me and getting healthy. I have started making plans for this week and next to meet up with friends to go for walks and or out for a coffee.. Step by Step, right?
wife of an addict M 39 H 39 D18 D 16 Together 19 M17
