I should clear something up....she (and I) do not and have not gotten lawyers involved. We really don't need to. She wanted me to contact a lawyer friend of my family to find out where we go to file on our own, because she couldn't find the info by herself. That last part, I don't really believe because I didn't even call the lawyer, a quick google search found my answers, so I sent them along. If she was that determined, she could have found it on her own.
