MLC W with OM, Part 12

[Lifes Twists]

You just have to be you and still be the rock for her. This MLC / Divorce stuff can really screw with the children. Whether this is a life choice or her just acting out against what has been thrust on her only time will tell.

I have had to hold my tongue a lot watching my own girls make bad choices or hearing about them afterwards. I just found out my oldest has been doing a very dangerous life style without respecting herself. She may be paying a hard price for it as she said she may have been exposed to HIV. I know if I had shouted and screamed at her that she would just close down and pull away. I talked to her calmly but strongly about the choice not to use protection and why it was not just for birth control. I dont look forward to dealing with things if she becomes HIV positive.

Treat your daughter as you always have. Dont pry into anything she and her friend do. If they chose to demonstrate behavior in you presence that make you uncomfortable then let them know just like you would if your other daughter and fiancee were.Some things are acceptable in mixed company. some things aren't.