I realise why i was spinning earlier, it was not what she did or did not do. It was not about me being controlling. It was not about me giving ultimatums or trying to hurt her.

Its the finality of it all. For the last 7 years, we have worked together, budget and all to get where we are. Splitting the budget is representative of splitting our R. As long as we pay things together, we'd be together.

Just going to let that soak that in now...


Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.