If she wants to get lawyers involved, why tell you to do the work? B/c that is how female bullies operate. If she wants a D, make her to her own paperwork.
I think it's a threat, at the moment, to get back under her thumb. However, don't try to talk her out of doing the paperwork, or whatever. If she says anything further about "you" doing anything, you need to matter-of-factly inform her that if she wants it......she will have to do the work to get it. I think she has you so well trained, perhaps you didn't even question why you would look for lawyers, look up the paperwork, or whatever. It is a bad habit to follow her every word without, at least, questioning it yourself while going through all of this mess.
I'm not suggesting you initiate anything, but just like all bullies, you don't want her getting the idea you are trying to avoid her, either. Bullies believe you are afraid, when you try to walk around them.
I mostly agree with you here. She hasn't been in contact with a lawyer and a family friend of mine is a divorce lawyer, helped my dad through his divorce. All I did was send her a link to site where it is possible. SHE will have to file. I told her I do not prefer a divorce but that I will sign whatever papers she presents me.
She seemed very much toned down when I got home. She works early and went to bed at like 7 last night, so I went over to my brothers. (My family has been very supportive). I do believe she is trying to bully based on how you are describing it, and what is happening. I need to keep my wits about me.
Knowing this now, I'm open to advice on how to deal with a WAW bully. I have zero problem standing up to it. I know where my b@lls are
