Thanks for the advice.

I'm not in limbo - we are moving forward with the D. Per attorney it will take a minimum of 6 months if everything went as smooth as possible and that isn't likely.

I will make the sacrifice for my kids. If I move back in and that forces her out then the kids will be devastated. W has been their primary caregiver their entire lives. She was a stay at home mom much of the time and works some part-time now.