Hi Ciluzen, sorry I've been absent for a week or so. I wish I had something amazing to say in response to your posts, like you do with mine and other peoples. I've just been catching up and your posts to me are incredible and so helpful, thank you! Your post about the house and R talk with H made me cry. It is all so painful. I think Job is right, that they do think about what we say/do just as much as we are analysing what they say/do. They are just a million miles ahead of us at this 'game' and are so much better at hiding it and detaching. I'm not sure we will ever catch them up, but hopefully we can get to places where the pain stops for us. I think that being tied to our Hs forever is the most painful thing about all of this. Even if you didn't need any kind of financial support from H we all remain tied through our kids, grandkids etc. My kids are a long way off getting married etc but thinking about their wedding days, or the birth of any grandchildren and H and I not being together for them cuts my heart into pieces. (((((((Ciluzen)))))))
