feels like i am on a rollercoaster

[bigybiz]

ChampJ:

You are doing great it sounds. The minor setbacks really do feel like you are starting all over again. It is so hard to keep all the "rules" in your head and try and stay positive, detached, etc, etc, etc.

It seems that the issues of Control and Change (maturing, etc) are regular themes. It's so important that we not get sucked into the black hole. It's a no win. The regular advice here is not to have any relationship talk and not apologize. It's so hard.

Others here may have better advice. When being accused of being controlling or being told that she does not feel safe, I just say I'm going to make sure that changes in the future.