I know my suggestion to do something to get a reaction is contrary to the themes and general advice here, I apologize. I really enjoyed watching my WW/WAW shake her head when she saw something changing or when "she said why are you doing all this at once - why did you not do it when it could have made a difference".
So be careful, but make sure you, the family, benefit from it first and if you get a reaction - great.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017