Hi IP You are doing amazing.. That feeling of being happy when your H is not around is great. You are doing things for you and your kids and detaching.
Once you put those bounderies in place of schedualed visits you will avoid a lot of stress. The fear of you pushing him away is just that a fear. You want H to want to do the work needed for him to want to reconcile. You don't want him to just fall into place and nothing was learned from all this.
It's Mother's Day here in Canada, I'll wish you happy Mother's Day because you are a great mom.
Irish
Hi Irish, thank you for the Mother's Day wishes! I love the part above about H doing the work to reconcile and me not letting him back with no lessons learned. I need reminding of this. I know that last time he learned no lessons and I let him come back far too easily.
