I am not new to this process and my now XW and I have been separated since 7/10. I went into my situation with all intentions of trying to save my M. I was willing to work on myself and past her 3 PA but over time and after a lot of therapy I realized that it wasn’t worth saving and she turned into a woman I didn’t want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes that happens and I’m ok with it now.
She still has her “crazy moments” (as I call them) but when they happen I just giggle, consider the source and let it roll off my back. She’s wanted to reconcile a few times over the years but I always politely decline.
I don’t regret the experiences I’ve encountered as they have turned me into a much better person. Don’t get me wrong, it was complete hell as they were happening but things really did get better.
My biggest concern was and always will be for my children and how this will affect them but they are both thriving academically and socially. They are very active with sports and after school activities and I couldn’t be prouder of both of them. I attribute their success to the both of us as we surprisingly co-parent well together especially as they get older.
So now I’m officially divorced and free to marry the love of my life. An extraordinary woman who has taken me places and shown me things all over world that I’d never thought I’d see. My kids absolutely adore her and she’s shown me what true love really means. I can’t wait to call her my wife.
So even though I was unsuccessful at DB’ing my first marriage, it gave me the tools to be successful at my second one and for that I am very, very grateful. Thank you.
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
