BTW another side comment (to give some hope out there) of the 4, 2 have R and have what appear to be great marriages, 1 has D and moved on, the other is currently going through D (and regretting it)

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17