Starting to do things right?

[PacLove]

So here's another interesting perspective from a different friend of mine - going through a D due to an A.

(Now that I'm going through this - it really hits home about how many M's are impacted by A's, I know of at least 4 and those are only the ones where people have been open to me about it)

Anyways back to my friend, it seems like both are open to R but so much damage has been done through the separation and D agreements that there's too much bitterness between the two of them to even talk about the possibility of R.

Why do I share this? I guess for the purpose of be cautious about how firm we are with our WAS if you are hopeful for R. While we need to set clear boundaries and get fairness, we also don't want to ruin the chances by getting into big custody/financial battles. While I'm not advocating compromise, what I personally am doing is holding off on any of those necessary conversations until they are really necessary.