GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

[AndrewP]

I really wish that this site had a thumbs up button.

From what I've read and experienced in real life with my own WW/WAW a big fear of their's is losing. You'll notice I didn't say "what" they would be losing - just losing. Losing their H, their family, the respect of the community. Heck, even losing an argument or a game of checkers would be tough.

I've gotten the most impact when I've made it plain to my own WW/WAW that she CAN go and that I'd support her taking that decision. It's also happened when she's realized all of the family on my side that she'd lose and when I've told her that I'm building myself up to stand on my own two feet and deal with things myself because I see that as a real possibility.

So - don't "give in". If you are going to have a successful MR you'll need to stick your chest out, let your own personal balls drop free and swinging and do what is right for you and your family. If she wants to be part of that family she needs to do what is right as well.

One suggestion as well. I don't have this in my journey but a lot of people seem to have the past dug up and thrown at them as a weapon. My own philosophy is that the past is over and can't be changed and that only the future is worth talking about.

Now - I just need to keep working on following my own advice as well.