Focus on the work, not the when

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Melo:

As MWD has written: the high from that they get from the A, etc is something you/we can't compete with. Any steps to fight it will bring backlash on you/us.

For my W it's not an OM it's this new "community" she is part of. She feels they are the only people who understand her and she found herself because of them and I'm trying to stop her from her dreams, etc, etc, etc.

But, when she is faced with the loss of her family and home, etc (Please read my post from today for more details), she starts to backtrack. She is now starting to get that she can have 2K twitter followers and a great job, but Christmas dinner alone would really suck.

Forget the competing. Even if you got him arrested (Nice one AndrewP), chances are she will funnel that energy into something/someone else.

Forget the snooping - that eats away at our souls and will give her ammo. I've really started to "win" a little. I've been making changes that are driving her nuts. Maybe do something she has always wanted you to do, or do something she hates, or something that makes her squirm. Sometimes these gentle nudges will get a reaction and knock some sense into her.