My first post - please be nice.

[collin]

Well, looks like my first goal should be BUY THE BOOK. But, doing so right now without her knowing would be nearly impossible.

But, in the meantime could you please help me understand? Like, my goal for next month is to run a 10k. But, that's not anything to do with her, that's just something I want to do, for me.

If I had to say my goal as far as my R would be to get my emotions (anger/sadness) in check. Right now I'm a wreck. I can't work on repairing my marriage in the mental state i'm in now. Got to work on me first, then her.

Am I on the right path as far as setting goals? Any help is appreciated.