@dream, for the past 3 days I have GALd fantasticly. I really let her be. Don't get me wrong, the locking of the door and guilting to come home for her son on her bday was not good. I am doing what I want whenever I want really.
Some of it is reactionary but I'm getting there, too slowly I know.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.