GAL going well. Need help with LRT and 180

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Wow - W went and booked a place to live. Told me she is leaving. Three hours later she says, she does not want to. She does not want to leave her kids (did not mention me at all but what do you expect from a WAW/WW). She gave me an ultimatum based on a bad experience from our past. She tells me that if I don't give her what she wants she sees that as I don't really mean what I say as far as fully supporting her etc, etc.

I told her that I'm not going down that rabbit hole. If she wants to base the next 30 years of our life on this one thing - I'm not doing it.

A little later I told her that this one issue is a big deal but should not be a deal breaker. I said, I'd be willing to work with a councilor or mediator for us to come to a resolution. I even said "I'd throw my self on the mercy of the court" meaning I'd do whatever the councilor recommended. Was that the right approach?

I told her if I gave into her demands I would not be the kind of guy she should be with. Further, if I said I'll give you what you want "If we make love 4 times a week and you make cinnamon buns every Sunday would that be reasonable?" She agreed that would be unreasonable.

Did I handle that right? She was getting close to saying she will come back - but I was not giving in on this one big issue.

Come on team - let me know what you think.