How are you going to take care of your son if you move out? You need to get your ducks in a row before you take extreme measures.
I agree with Wonka, you CAN control your emotions and reactions. You choose not to.
As far as what to do when she comes home at 10am? Whatever you planned to do that day at 10am. You do what you do and she does whatever she does. You take care of your son on your days and she takes care of your son on her days. On her days, you do what you gotta do for yourself.
