Consider your reason for doing so.... if it is in hopes you will make your spouse end the affair don't count on it. If it is solely because you think the affair partners husband/wife deserves to know than I would consider it.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
