Some days are better than others

[EDF]

I absolutely appreciate your insight. I haven't revealed to her that I snooped and learned everything that is really going on.

I am definitely feeling the cognitive dissonance between all the DB/GAL/Detaching I am doing, rediscovering "the man she would be a fool to lose", and the fact that so far I have chosen not to let her know everything I learned via snooping... which definitely feels not like that confident independent man.

I've been torn wondering whether I am avoiding confronting her with my snooping for the right reasons. Whether her coming clean about OM2 and her seeming to slowly come out of fog are things working, or just wishful thinking and me wanting to avoid confrontation and rocking the boat?

Her going out dancing alone felt like her stepping over the "No Open Relationship" boundary I set, but I'm not sure on how to react to her potentially violating that boundary without turning it into an ultimatum or a big relationship talk.

I guess one thing I'm uncertain of, is what is the constructive DB/GAL/Detaching way of confronting her with the evidence I have? Is there a link specifically on that?