Blu Thanks so much for responding. It's great to have feedback and connection in this storm.
I suppose by explanation, I mean that I want to convey that I heard him not wanting to do marriage counseling, which he seemed to think I intended. I feel like I Have to acknowledge and gently clarify since that would be pushing and not respecting his boundaries.
other than that, no other explaining woudl help right now I suppose.
I may go ahead and say I am not available on that date and leave it at that. Have to speka with my atty first anyways. It is hard to trust him about the practical actions he wants to do on our own now (determine amoutn for the 'spousal support'-which i DONT want psychologically and he said he does NOT want to provide, only out of deference to the law). Also, I have to find out from legal if sign away and completel all the tasks about car titles, etc., then can the trial date still remain? the only purpose is to 'buy time' while I DB, not to pay for a court trial, as he thinks it means. But I am not to explain that I think.
Cadet, thank you for assisting with the previous posts.
