Focus on me and my boys

[J5K]

@Painter,

I have already made these type of requests before with her and she has not complied.

We both agreed that we wanted a big family. I think I stated this earlier in a thread, I was concerned when we did adopt the 4th that most of the responsibility would fall on her. Then when we were blessed with fostering a 4 month old that was the gift of what she wanted in having a baby since we could not conceive. Our S2 is so sweet and has been since the first day he came into our home.

We were on a path to making things happen to get her back home.
I was working OT trying to save every penny to ensure we were financially stable where she thought I was running away from her and being distant. She communicated lots of emotional info to me when I first filed for D and had control. So I started working on those things but it was all for nothing because she was not going to stop seeing OMs and now because of me being too nice I allowed myself to get into a position of losing my home and possibly losing custody of my boys.

I don't know, there is a combination of things that got us to this place and yes I recognize and own up to my faults but I can't take all the blame for the failure of this MR.

So now she is going for the jugular and wants to take every penny I have. Her mother is buying the house. Some how I feel STBX and MIL have something planned that will deny me any rights to obtaining half of the house being built in Canada.

I fear that the psychologist and judge will decide in her favor and then I will never live down the "see I was right" attitude she will give me. STBX says she will accept 50/50 custody and co-parent in Toronto just because she feels her job is to be a SAHM, but I don't believe anything she says anymore after the actions she has taken.

The big question is, will a judge in Michigan rule that a SAHM can move kids 4.5 hours away from their father or recommend that I move there also. All because her MIL will be buying a brand new house for them to live in and I would not be able to provide the same?

The house in Canada is 3,300 square feet with 5 bedrooms, where I will only be able to afford a 2,000 square foot house in Michigan with 3 bedrooms.