Want away wife, having a EA possible PA

[blueboy]

Hi All

First post, been married 17 years, 3 kids 12-10, had ups and down but mostly up, wife told me 3 weeks ago she wanted to leave and had meet someone else but didn't want to have a PA, but maybe this person was someone she wanted a relationship with.

She spoke about separating for a week, we went to MC for support, she changed her mind and said she want to stay and want to move area to a new house for a new start. We had a further session of MC were she spoke about wanting to sort out issues and move on, draw a line under things. This lasted a week and half, than she admitted she had been in contact with OM again on May 10th

Since then she has talk about separating again and wanting space, she goes out and I assume she is seeing OM, she doesn't want anyone to know and doesn't want to tell the children anything! Seem she wants to have here cake and eat it an the moment!

She has told her parents, expecting support, however their reaction has been total disgusted. They can't believe it, they told her she had a lovely life, a perfect husband who treats her like a princess!

They are even more shock that OM is 23 year older than her!

I'm lost, love her so so much, I have start to follow the advice on here regarding detachment etc! Just not sure what to do next as we are still living together, it hard work to keep going any advice would be good!