Hi Phoebe, I agree with Blu on the stats. People in an A right now are more likely to end up back with their spouse than go on to marry their AP. Of the small percentage who do go on to marry their AP, 75% end in D. Those are the stats I have read in any case. Conversely, I have read that 20% of people who D go on to remarry their spouse - go figure!

But, all of this takes time - and I believe that time is normally more than months. Particularly if that A is a MLC A - those seem to take a longer time to resolve. And from what you post, your h does sound to have some MLC type issues - ie: total rejection of his former life, 'young' living etc...

I know you are finding it difficult, but when I read your posts and how you are moving forward (with more than baby steps actually) I do believe you are right where you need to be.

Lovely to read about your feline chums too xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus