Where is this data that you read? I haven't seen it. Can you copy the link? I have heard that a very small percentage of As turn into long term Rs and 3-5% will marry. Don't recall where I read that tho. I heard this great radio interview on limerance--you can look it up online--and the interviewee discusses why As only last 1-2 years and that it is an artificial (not based in reality) R and thus why it is so addictive. Very informative.
I have also read that a large percentage of second Ms were with the original partner. I also recall from my research/reading days, that men were less likely to leave their wives and families, while by the time a W has checked out into an A, she had been fantasizing an escape for a long while. Again, DO NOT quote me on any of this, just recall reading these things, don't know where. I imagine it is hard topic to have data on because of the secretive nature of As, and there is also guilt and denial.
P, I can see how that would be disheartening news tho. It is hard to believe that even after doing everything possible, the chances are so low. I do know in my sitch, I held onto my belief that H was really not himself, and that I knew this wasn't the life he wanted. And he did come back around. As hard as it is, there are some positive changes he has made in himself that he may have not without this crisis.
Hang in there! Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
